Kate, Oldest Great Grandchild Celebrates Her Birthday!

What a special birthday celebration for Kate.   Grandma and Grandpa, Mom Kristi, Sarah and Craig took her to Magic Mountain so she could do the roller coasters!  Something she doesn't get to do when she is with her younger siblings.

Ravens or Crows???

There has been a large group of black birds all over the street and in the yard and across the street and I wonder what kind they are and why there is such a gang of them hanging out together and what they are doing!!

Then I see a lone black bird, larger, swooping around.

Since I can never remember the differences I looked it up.  The large group are Crows and they often travel and live in large groups.  Their tails are straight across.

The lone guy may or may not have another with him but they seldom gather in groups.  He has the tail that is longer in the middle and he is a Raven.

Now I know, I should take their pix.

Kelsi, the Youngest Grandchild

Kelsi was born just seven months before my first Great Grandchild, Kate.

Evidently, Kelsi will be giving up her great big bedroom for me for the winter!!  And I will get to spend lots of precious time with her I hope.  Kelsi is always a delight to be around, loves life and everybody in it.  I hope she can teach Sadie some tricks again.  She is very good at that.

I will be arriving on the Tuesday morning before Thanksgiving and will be traveling with Mary Anne, who will be visiting her daughter's family in Santee.  She is flying back the next week, however, and I will be staying till almost April.

Kelsi and I have spent a lot of time together.  I remember one time when I was tending her and her friend as they used the pool and were sitting in the Jacuzzi I heard her come to my defense.  I am not  exactly quite sure what her little friend said about me, but Kelsi defensively said in such a loud voice I looked up from my reading, "She is not!" and they were both staring at me and then Kelsi smiled at me so sweetly, as if to say, "It's ok, Grandma."

 Kelsi has been in Cotillion and is dressed up so pretty here with her beautiful Mom.

Looks like she got to watch the college girls play Soccer.  One of their dear friends is on the BYU team this year.

Hello, World!!!!

A few months ago Kelsi and Camber got to go to New York with James and Kelsi saw her first Broadway Musical.

Happy Anniversary Yesterday!!!

I meant to wish myself a Happy Anniversary yesterday and then I got so intent on catching up on my blog that I forgot.  It would have been 58 years!!!  Richard treated me so well.  I remember when Matt Hardy was living with us for a summer in La Jolla.  He let me know he thought I was very fortunate to have a beautiful home, and a husband who doted on me.  His father had died and left his mother with six children and a baby on the way.  Yes, I am sure my life looked pretty great compared to his Mom's.  And it was especially good at that time.

I am remembering those years serving in the San Diego Temple before Richard died.  With our financial world crashing around  us, it became the oasis in the week.  The time to be out of this world for a time.  Richard would always come up and tell me how beautiful I was or that he loved me whenever our paths would cross while we were doing our specific jobs in the temple.  I was 50 lbs overweight and looked pretty tacky but he never made me feel badly about it.

I have shared pictures of us over and over but this one may have been one of the last.  We were up in Susanville.  I think I look younger now than I did then even though this was probably 23 or more years ago.

Linda just sent me a note.

"Just realized it was you and Dad's anniversary.  Thinking of you and dad and all the happy years you had together.  You and dad were a great example of what a marriage should be.  Love you both so much and your great examples of conquering life, whatever it throws at you, and making the best of it together!!  Can't thank you enough for the loving home and examples you both provided for our family.  Love you!"

Thanks, Linda, I appreciate you always remember the good times.  After talking to my sister, Carole, last night I read my "Dear Richard" letters.  These were letters I wrote to Richard after he died when things in my life were not going well, and I would vent to him rather than my children.  I decided it was time to burn them and only remember the good times.

And, of course, the year it all began...1959.  I especially like this picture because of the way Richard is looking at me...like he loves me.  This picture came from my parent's movie camera which I only saw a couple years ago when my nephew Steven shared it on the Silvergate Cabin page.  Love it!

Oh, NO, Not Again--My Tummy Aches Plus More...Need to Stay Home Alot!!!!

Sometime after Hurricane Katrina I began to have intestinal problems, not that Hurricane Katrina was the cause, it is just a timing gauge.  Although it could have been--I lost 20 pounds the first month on duty and practically lived on Pepto bismo and fiber pills trying to control what food we did get.  But then when I ended up my tour in Galveston and then Beaumont and the restaurants were all operating I was eating everything yummy and I do not remember a problem except for gaining weight.  But anyway, disaster day did hit and...

Dr. Natali gave me information on IBS and Linda bought me a book and I scoured the website and began to change my way of eating to see if we could find the cause and the cure.  Gone were the days when I could eat anything I wanted and not end up having some disastrous consequences.  I appreciated Dr. Natali so much, he tried so hard to help and was very understanding.

The first thing I found for sure was the relationship to gluten and so I gave up gluten.  The times I would slip or eat unawares always resulted in problems.  Gluten was definitely out.  Sugar could definitely be a problem, and I found the Special Carbohydrate Diet and that really solved the issue but another opinion was that it was just the Fodmaps (lactose, fructose, fructan, etc etc) and rice was ok, and potatoes were ok and watermelon was not ok, etc. etc. and so bread could be made from rice flour and not just almond flour, etc.  The fact that these two diets disagree on certain foods to solve the same problem is why trial and error is necessary.  Fodmap diet does not want you to eat onions and yet it is ok on SCD.  Frustrating!  Plus fodmap diet says Gelato ok, SCD no!

It is the opinion that when bacteria in our gut gets out of  wack that the small intestine could not digest certain foods and they would just wiz on through.  It is more complicated than that but lots of reading and experimenting helped me to find what worked to keep me fairly stress-free and not so many tummy aches and runs to the bathroom.   I have lots of books and recipes and have experimented a lot.

But of course, you always cheat a little, slip a little and soon you are out of balance again.  One thing that can be a real problem is antibiotics and last month with all the antibiotics with my dental issues my system is out of wack again and I am back to square one...so to speak.

So back to cooking what works and eating what works and avoiding the rest...plus I had given up more dairy last summer when I found my congestion and phlegm problems could disappear with the dairy...who knew.  Well actually if you read books and the internet a lot of people know.

But actually, the homemade food is much better than any other.  It just takes planning and shopping.  Since I have found my love for Havarti Cheese I am especially anxious to try the fresh tomatoes and Havarti pizza on a homemade almond flour crust...I never tried that before!!!  We will see if it is as good as the margarita pizzas on the Mediterranean Cruise.  I am looking forward to my homemade spaghetti sauce, too, so much better especially with spaghetti squash and zucchini and hey, I have missed my cauliflower mashed potatoes...

After I get my tummy settled down again I will try my rice flour bread again and my potatoes one at a time and gradually see what else I can handle...Oh, yes, I am back to making my own yogurt again.  Why did I stop, it is so good and much better than probiotic pills.  Just takes a little effort.

My favorite breakfast...an egg mixed with half a banana and made into a big pancake and then slathered with butter...yum.  Or an egg stirred up with cheese and microwaved for 45 seconds.

Well, the heart doctor did say to make my diet just protein and vegetables, I guess that is what it will be.

The funny thing I can remember tummy aches being a part of my life from the time I was a child, definitely when I was a teenager and young adult so I probably have been eating things I was allergic to or that were toxic to me for years.  When I had an exam as a young adult the doctor said I had a wrinkled stomach? lining and so acid and spicy foods would always irritate me...that is all I remember about that.  And there have been other sporadic episodes but not chronic until about 2006-7 or so.

Zack has Grown Up!!!

Zack is the son of my niece Sherry who passed away from cancer when Zack was just a young man.  They lived with us in La Jolla when he was just a toddler.  As soon as I find a pix of him at that time I will load it.  He lives in Austin, Texas and does very well with his sweet family.

About Christmas 2011 in October 2017, Carole

Last night I was talking to Carole and she was so sad and depressed I asked her if she had ever read the letter I wrote to my children at Christmastime 2011 ( I actually keep a copy in my drawer with all my book reading ideas and article "There's a Horse in the House" and letters I write to Richard when I am sad.  These are things I want to remind myself of from time to time.)  She said, "No", so I read it to her and she thanked me.  She said I should send it to the Ensign.  "So many need to hear that."

Here is a copy.

Dear Linda and Gary, Maria and Johnny, James and Camber,


Saturday morning a wondrous thing happened to me. I had been feeling so dark, so discouraged, so hopeless and I just couldn't pull myself out of it.  It had gone on for months.  I had been seeking answers from the Lord and they were not coming. Friday night I pleaded again and cried for help.


Saturday morning the answer came. It was like I was getting patient instruction from a loving parent. It was:


"Janet, do you remember when ....and I did this for you... and do you remember this...and this... and He went through all the things I knew but was refusing in my dark mind to remember. All the many times the Lord has answered my prayers, has forgiven me, has carried me when I couldn't handle it all, has actually saved me from my myself and directed me down another path, all the many mini-miracles and tender mercies and all the loving people in my life, all the blessings, life saving experiences and learning experiences, and actual miracles.


The way I had been feeling was that I had had too much steeped on me and it wasn't fair and why didn't the Lord love me when I had tried my best to do what was required of me and why this and why that and my complaints went on and on.   I couldn't see where I was going from here, there was no joy in my life, I had nothing to show for all my work and struggle.  I was a failure and unloved.


And after the Lord instructed me it was like a great weight was lifted from me and He reminded me that everything was going to be all right and I should have peace and love and faith in my mind and heart instead of fear and doubt and discouragement. He reminded me that He had always been there and He would always be there. That we all have different experiences and what is really important and what doesn't matter and I should recognize the difference, I shouldn't be confused and doubt, I knew better. He was there always and all was well, He assured me He knew I was doing my best and I had done well. (I was also made aware of when I had failed to be my best but the pain from those experiences was lifted).


It was like a panorama of all my blessings of which my children and grandchildren and great-grandchildren are my greatest blessing now and I should just love and enjoy them and all the experiences of life that are still available to me. My home and the blessings of it are one. He reminded me of the many people in my life who had taught me, helped me, showed me the way and how blessed I was to have had them in my life. Richard as the father to my children and a faithful, loving, companion was one of my greatest blessings and I should not minimize that. The many experiences I had were for my instruction and not a curse in my life.


It all happened so fast, was I awake or still in sleep? I am not sure. I just know I was feeling joy and peace when it was over and it seemed I had so many things to do and I was excited to get on with my life and I felt such a strong knowledge of the Lord and the atonement and the plan of salvation and I was so grateful to have the gospel in my life and all it had brought to me. And all those bad feelings I had had for certain experiences were gone. I should have written it all down immediately. But what I have now is the feeling of peace and faith in my Savior and a desire to have more gratitude and a greater appreciation for each of you in my life. The fear I had been carrying for the future is gone. 

I am so thankful to have each of you helping me to endure to the end.  Each of you seems to have a different gift to give…  I know that life is good and we have much happiness in the simplest experiences we share. All is well. I will do the best I can and I know the Lord will make up the rest (probably through you). I love you all. I love the Gospel of Jesus Christ in our lives.

Thank you all for being so patient with me.  Merry Christmas 2011.

This morning Carole texted me and said again I should send a copy to the Ensign as many need to read my letter.  I am not so sure about that but I did send it as I did not want her to think I do not respect her opinion.  We will see what they say.  I know they are very picky about what they print.  I actually submitted my article about "An angel at the Airport" in 1999, but they turned that one down, and it was actually a very tender mercy for me...and a very much needed mini miracle in my life.

It was so strange before I talked to Carole I sat down by the bed and was checking to see if my phone needed charging before I went to bed.  As I plugged in the charger I heard a voice talking so I put it to my ear and there was Carole.  She said her phone had rung.  I was not aware of it but we began to talk and that was when I realized how sad she sounded.  I know how hard it is to be alone without your husband after so many years of always having them near.  It never gets easy.

My sister Carole in between my sisters Jeanne and Marilyn.

Carole with her granddaughter.

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Melissa Was Here!!!

Maybe I should put in a picture of me when I was Melissa's age so we can know I was not always so wrinkled!!!  Melissa has the most amazing skin and teeth and eyes and hair, I was not nearly so pretty or gifted with such amazing looks so just as well not.  I have earned those wrinkles and scars though, believe me.

I so enjoyed having Melissa here for two days.  For some reason we can carry on a continual conversation until she tires of talking anyway.  But I always enjoy our conversations and usually learn many things I did not know.  She is so smart!

We ate out a couple times and I cooked a dinner for Saturday night and then Sunday afternoon she needed to get down to Sacramento in time for supper and fly home the next day.  I am so glad she took the time to come and see me though.  And I learned something I need remember always.  She has lots of decisions to make about what she wants in life and I wish her well.  I am sure she will continue to be exceptional in whatever she chooses.

After we had discussed some frustrating things about working with others and in an office and our own needs not being met, etc.  I must have had it all on my mind because the next morning I woke up and said, "I have had and epiphany!!"  All these years I have resented Richard wanting me to learn all about mortgages and then having learned too much it became my career for the next 30 years and so much of that time I hated it!!!  He said to me once, "How can you hate something you are so good at?"

What was the epiphany?  Richard didn't ask me to learn all about brokering conventional loans.  He did not know anything about that.  He asked me to come down and be an office manager and do a few private loans if I wanted to.  Yes, I needed my real estate license to do that but...It was I that learned all about the business of brokering loans to other lenders, it was I that spent hours with the Beverly Hills Loan Specialist to find out how to do it, that invited other lender reps and brokers to our office to teach us, that got us approved with so many lenders, that got us educated in processing and getting loans and understanding adjustable mortgages and etc. etc. etc.  It was I!!! Not Richard.  I chose to learn it.  I chose to do it.  And why?  Because there is something in my personality, and Maria's personality and Melissa's personality that if we see a need to improve a situation we are in, we research and learn and figure out what can be done and how to do it better...to improve continually.  How many times did I organize and reorganize everything in our office...

Maria says if  you work in a job like hers, that kind of drive gets you promoted!!  And she was recently promoted again!!!  And Melissa was promoted a while back, too.  She also said our weaknesses are our strengths and our strengths are our weaknesses.  I see now the secret is learning how to manage it.

You need to learn how to harness this drive to where you don't spend all your time trying to make everything better and forget to take the necessary time for yourself.

In a letter that I wrote to myself  many years ago when I was trying to figure out why I hated my mortgage life so much I had decided it was because I never had time for myself.  I never "took" the time for myself though.  I did not make it a priority.  Everything to do with the job was a priority  and yes, there was always things to do better, things to finish, things to start.  These things were always more important than myself.  I did emotional eating,  I was stressed, I was frustrated but I did not learn how to manage my time to have a balanced life.

When I worked for SBA it was much better but I still was spending a lot of my time developing charts and lists and etc. etc. for the good of the whole but having to take my 'own' to do them instead of spending that extra time on my own needs.

Anyway Maria says if I processed that all in my mind so I can stop blaming others for my own choices then I really did learn something and she is right.  And now I have it down in black and white so I will always have to accept the responsibility for my own choices and not blame anyone else (Richard) etc.

Pulsipher's Gather for Farewell Talk of Sarah

Sarah is heading to Santiago, Chile on November 7 and gave her farewell talk at church last Sunday.  She sent me a video of it so I was able to listen to it and see her.  She did very well.  I am excited for her.  I can't imagine me being able to do it at 19 but I am sure she will do well.

While everyone was there some great  Pulsipher family photos were taken.

Charli's great trick at 4 months!!

Kristi's family whom we have not had in here for awhile!!

The reason the farewell was so early is because Tanner had appointments for medical school!  No decisions yet that I have heard.

Kelly and Collin have been at the Pulsipher  home all summer.  Collin was taking a paramedic? course and Kelly working at the dental office.   Not sure where they are going to med school either.

Cute little family with the newest great grandchild Charli.

Ready for Christmas 2017, Christmas in Del Mar

For me I have always decorated for Christmas sometime between Halloween and Thanksgiving but this year I am earlier because I will not even be here!!!

I love to sit in the fall evenings with the fire in the stove and lights on the Christmas tree.  This year the only other decorating I am doing though is the red pillow covers.  The material I bought in Singapore with Meagan which was always intended for a dress and jacket for me I decided would be much better as pillow covers for Christmas.  I think they are beautiful!!!

When I sent this card out in 2017, one person told me she wanted to be me when she grew up.  She thought this was such a cute idea.

Christmas dinner and white elephant was held at the home of James and Camber.

This picture of me with some of my grandchildren and great grandchildren is one of my favorite pictures.  My friend Jean actually had a puzzle made of it and gave it to me after Christmas.  I gave it to the Hardy children last Christmas.

Such beautiful grandchildren and great grandchildren.

A Wedding at Thanksgiving in Glendive

Carole's son Eric and Gabriella are going to be married at Thanksgiving time!!  Gabriella is the ex-wife of one of my classmates sons!  She is very talented at home remodeling and landscaping and very creative and did some work at Eric's home a couple years ago and the rest is history.  They enjoy each other very much.  She has seven children but only two boys will be living with them and he has four children but none living at home anymore.  Love is better the second time around so they say.

Massey Family Time

Keira is learning to read!!!!  And is sharing a book she likes!

Keira and Eden are part of the scooter craze.  The scooters have come a long way from the wooden ones we had as children.  I do not remember even riding one.  It seems it was the boys' thing to do in my day.

Oh, my goodness, such nice smiles and Nico is catching up with Eden!!

Mitch and Bahia

Mitch and Bahia are living in Ocean Beach, San Diego!!

 They were recently visiting Bahia's family in Lincoln, north of Sacramento.

I will enjoy seeing them both when I winter in Del Mar this year!!

Cousins and Parents in Soccer

Granddaughter Kelsi in the middle in the back row is on a Soccer Team this year and Camber, her Mom is Coaching!!

And great grandaughter Kelsi is also playing Soccer again and her Daddy is a coach!!

Charli

 Grandma Linda snuggles Charli at the hospital.  8th great grandchild...Mommy is Amy and Daddy is Joe born in May.

 Hmm, how did they take this pix...Snapchat?????  Amy has started Traveling Nurse again and comes from Nevada to San Diego and brings Charli with her so this weekend four are taking care of Charli and having fun taking pictures!!!  OK, this one does look like Joe.

 Neat way to take a shower Charli.  I can surely see Amy in this picture of Charli.

Auntie Kelly snuggles Charli in a fun holder.

 Now I know this is a Snapchar pix, but she looks cute with all those additions.

 Snuggled Charli again...looks like baby pictures of Joe

Grandma Linda and Charli (looking like Amy) in another Snapchat pix.  I have not seen Charli in person but she looks so mellow and contented....

Root Canal Failure and Then Finally Success!!!

On Tuesday August 29th Dr Struve saw me and they took x-rays.  I have to have a root canal and it is a crown, not a bridge.  So I have an appointment on September 5th to go to Reno to Sierra Endonontics and Mary Anne has said she would drive me!!!  Dr. Struve does not do root canals anymore.  It will cost over $1000 at Reno and then another $275 or more I think for Dr. Struve to fill the hole made by the other Dr.!!!  Evidently they drill a hole through the crown to clean out all the bad stuff!!  I think I have been feeling bad for a long time because of this bad tooth!!!  It is a good thing I have some money saved up for my property taxes, I guess I will have to use that.

September 5^th visit to Sierra Endonontics

All appeared to be going well but I was already there for over an hour when the assistant put latex over my mouth and the doctor was coming in to do the job.    It seemed to take her a long time to hook it on my teethe in my mouth and then fix it outside.  I think now that she was having a problem doing it.  And then I could not breathe!  I sat up and she told me not to pull at it, she would remove it.  They both talked to me and said this happens quite often.  They said my brain was telling me I could not breathe but I really could.  They were sure if they medicated me the next time I came back I would not have a problem.  It was really scary.  I have had a lot of medical procedures but I have never felt so threatened by what was happening to me.  Oh, yes and after they had taken pictures and poked and probed he told me what he found but I was evidently not understanding exactly why I would now have to sign another sheet of paper saying that the procedure might not be successful and I might have to have the tooth pulled anyway.  Also my blood pressure was up when I was there and that concerned me, too.  They charged me $297 for the no success but for other things done that day!!!

By the time I got home and the next day I felt I could not go through that again and I should just have the tooth pulled and not waste all that money.  I called the pharmacist and told them to put a hold on the pills that were ordered for me.

Joe and Monica came over and hung my blind back up that had fallen down and they listened to my sob story and were very understanding.  

The next day I talked to Dr. Struve and he said he would call them and find out what the problem was with the tooth and when he called me back he was convincing me that it was a slight peridontal (gum loose I guess) issue and would probably not be a problem at all and I really needed to keep that crown, it would give me years of service and I needed it and he really urged me to go through with it.  I called the pharmacist and said I would come and pick up the medicine.

In the meantime I had read a lot about the procedure and realized that I had been forced to breathe through my nose and it was all stuffed up because I had not blown it that morning.  I also had phlegm in the throat and so I felt that is really why I panicked, I could not breathe.  Gary also convinced me though that I can actually breathe through my mouth as it is open on both sides.  Linda told me to practice breathing with something over my mouth before I go back again.

I decided I would prepare for this appointment and it was not until the following Thursday so I had a week to prepare.  I took claritin every day.  I did not eat any processed food, dairy, sugar, etc. in other words not foods that might cause me to have phlegm.  I was going to have a clear channel.  Maria told me to wear sun glasses and take my music and earphones, she also takes a blanket.  They told me to wear short sleeves but I took my long sleeved shirt, too.  On the Sunday before I had a nightmare that I was still in my pajamas when Mary Anne came to pick me up and I had forgotten to take the pill the night before!!!  

September 14th

Joe and Monica came over on Wednesday night and Joe gave me a blessing.  I felt great after eating so well all week and not having any phlegm or stuffy nose so on Thursday, the 14th, I felt comfortable going in.  I wrote them the check of $1053 and a new assistant was there this time.  She told me I could wear my sun glasses, listen to my music and keep my long sleeve shirt on.  The dentist immediately numbed my gums.  She put two pills under my tongue and I was off to lala land.  She also put the dental dam on without a hitch, I was hardly aware she did it.  The doctor was back again and soon I was out and done!!!  It was amazing how easy it all was.

They gave me a paper to read the next day.  I later learned it said not to use any straws.  But I wanted a strawberry shake and Mary Anne went to Steak and Shake and then in Susanville I wanted another one and we went to Jack in the Box.  When she left me at home I lay down on the couch and slept for 3 hours until Marilyn woke me on the phone.  Then I got ready for bed and Sadie did not get her walk that night but she had run around alot on her own.

Anyway, so far so good.  On Wednesday next I see Struve again and hope all goes well there with the refill.  I have no pain but still have swelling around the tooth as I have had for two weeks now and am taking ibuprofen to hopefully bring it down.  Also, my tax money will soon be gone and I will have to start on the HOA money and then I need to worry about buying new tires before the ice comes.  Always something...but for now I really feel better than I have in months!!!!  On Antibiotics for 20 days, Sue says next week I will have a UTI and she is probably right.  But yea, success!!!  I did it!!!!

 

Septic Solution for Another Seven Years!!!

This picture of Matt and Maria on Instagram reminded me that I never wrote down the Septic Solution!!  Greg L. never did come and put the covers on the Septic tanks, even though I talked to him, etc. etc.  He never sent me a bill for the digging his guys did either!!

So when Matt and Maria came in the spring the septic tanks were still unfilled holes just covered by the boards that the handyman put down.  Matt was looking for work and I was happy he was there to do it.

I decided since Westwood Sanitation said it would be 7 years before the septic would need to be cleaned again that we should just cover them with dirt the way they have been since the house was built.  It would save money in the long run and Matt understands the grading that would have to be done.

So Matt did an excellent job, took a long time, but he uncovered the tanks, covered them with dirt and then graded the dirt so there would not be any problem with drainage.  It is hard to find a handyman that can do that kind of work and do it well but as I say Matt understands all things outdoors.

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